Reconciliation Replay (December 12, 2013)

highlighting the best reconciliation words around

APPLY Paul's teachings to the local church: "8 Reasons why the Apostle Paul Wants Local Churches to be Multi-Ethnic" by Derwin Gray

"The Apostle Paul did not go into a Greco-Roman city and plant a church for the Jews and then a church for gentiles (non-Jews) because it would have been out-of-step with the Gospel he loved, lived, and proclaimed (Galatians 2:11-21).

Paul relentlessly believed that the power of the Gospel could create a new kind of humanity that was an altogether new ethnic group called the Church. The Church would be a community where racism, classism, and sexism would be defeated by Gospel-love (Galatians 3:24-28)...Read more"

EXAMINE how to you walk to young children about race: "Talking Race With a Toddler Who Wasn't Talking About Race At All" by Tamika Thompson

"But because I have lived in America as a black person for more than three decades and have amassed hurt feelings, heard misguided conversations on race, as well as endured blatant and vicious racism, I had arrived at a place where I had recited my first race and ethnicity conversation with my daughter again and again in my head, but I hadn’t recited it yet in my heart. I hear “the black one,” and I immediately think – skin color. But Morgan doesn’t. She might one day. But, for now, she doesn’t...Read more"

MEN, BEFRIEND other men: "American Men's Hidden Crisis: They Need More Friends!" by Lisa Wade

"Of all people in America, adult, white, heterosexual men have the fewest friends. Moreover, the friendships they have, if they’re with other men, provide less emotional support and involve lower levels of self-disclosure and trust than other types of friendships. When men get together, they’re more likely to do stuff than have a conversation. Friendship scholar Geoffrey Greif calls these “shoulder-to-shoulder” friendships, contrasting them to the “face-to-face” friendships that many women enjoy. If a man does have a confidant, three-quarters of the time it’s a woman, and there’s a good chance she’s his wife or girlfriend...Read more"

UNDERSTAND anger: "Dealing with Anger in Race Relations" by Jody Louise

"I have often heard people of color express a similar anger toward the inequitable system that keeps racism alive and kicking, but living with my non-white family in a majority white setting made my experience with anger and race take a new turn.  The longer we lived there, the harder it was for me to assume good-intentions when the bad-actions were so obvious.  Over time, I grew angry with white-people myself...Read more"

HEAR from another social psychologist on the issue of singles in religious congregations: "How Churches Marginalize Single People and How They Can Do Better" by Bella DePaulo

"Singlism, the ways in which single people are stereotyped, stigmatized, and ignored, is evident in many different domains, as well as in the ordinary interactions of everyday life. It can be especially hurtful when singlism occurs in places that are supposed to be all about love and caring and healing and wide open arms. I’m talking about churches and other places of worship.

A few years ago, I had heard from enough different single people about their disappointing experiences as single people in their religious venues that I started a series of posts on the topic. (The links are at the end of this post.)...Read more"

EMBRACE the real Mandela: "On Nelson Mandela, Jesus and our Sanitized Stories" by Hannah Heinzekehr

"Nelson Mandela was a great man and a great leader. This is true. But as I watched all the coverage surrounding his life and death, something struck me. I was struck by how quickly we humans can tend to sanctify and sanitize a person and their story. I was not alone in this observation. Shortly after his death, The Daily Beast ran an article entitled, “Don’t Sanitize Nelson Mandela: He’s Honored Now, But Was Hated Then.”...Read more"

LISTEN to and LEARN from women: "101 Christian Women Speakers" by Rachel Held Evans

"Remember, this list isn’t simply for finding speakers. It’s for introducing voices already speaking through books, research, ministries, organizations, sermons, and podcasts. Use this list, and the comments below, to update your blogroll, augment your Amazon wish list, and familiarize yourself with some amazing people, organizations, and movements...Read more"

JUST READ THIS: "A Gritty Nativity" by Jessica Rock

"She was so tired. The traveling was a chore and a burden and not as exciting as she wished it was. Her back ached so much. She did not ride the camel very much. Getting on it was too cumbersome with her distended belly. Her legs and thighs ached because of its heavy gait. Camels stomp. So she walked. Her back had a deep ache and the ache was getting deeper and deeper...Read more"