Reconciliation Replay (July 24, 2014)
highlighting the best reconciliation words around
REJECT culture blindness: "2014 Marriage & Family Summit" by Brenda Salter-McNeil
"Don't be color-blind, gender-blind, anything-blind. In the story of the woman at the well, the very first thing the woman says to Jesus is, “you’re a Jew.” She says, “You are a Jewish man. And I am a Samaritan woman.” Those parts of their identities are important. They havesignificant meaning and context for this exchange... You cannot attempt to be color-blind or gender-blind or anything-blind. When a person comes into your office, you should never ignore those aspects of their personhood. It should, in fact, be one of the first things you notice.
You’re a woman. You’re Latina. Tell me more about your experience...Read more"
EXAMINE who you read: "On Reading More Women: Examining Our Consumption Habits" by Krista Dalton
"Reading women simply for the sake of reading women, whereby women become tokens of progress, can lead us back into the habit of passivity...Consumption is not the solution but the problem. As Veblen and Bourdieu have demonstrated, upbringing, class, and education dialectically shape the economy of cultural goods. Which means, our choice of whom we read is informed by who we are in society, and what we read reproduces that stasis. In order to fundamentally address the state of gender inequality, our method and means of consumption must be critically examined along with its content...Read more"
ASK about racialized humor: "Why Evangelicals Should Care About 'The Mikado' Controversy if They Care About Reconciliation in the Church" by Bo Lim
"In my pastoral counseling class in seminary, the professor played a video of a counseling session of a black couple. He intended for us to learn some lessons on marriage counseling from it, but it turned out to be a laugh fest for the mostly white class. Repeatedly the husband and wife cut each other down with witty insults. My sense is that the couple reminded the students of George and Louise Jefferson from the TV show The Jeffersons. I sat next to an African American student that day and during the break I turned over to him and asked, “Do you find this funny?” He said, “I’m glad you asked,” and proceeded to tell me that he witnessed this kind of behavior firsthand in his own home since his parents are divorced. Needless to say he did not find the video amusing. I encouraged him to voice this to the class, which he courageously did when we returned from break. It seems while the professor intended to communicate one thing from showing the video, it communicated another because of the manner in which the students were racialized...Read more"
SUPPORT rural ministry: "The Reality of Rural Poverty" by April Fiet
"Over the past seven years as I have served as a minister in my community, I have come to the realization that rural ministry and urban ministry have a lot in common.We face suburban isolation as nearly everyone who lives in our community commutes long distances to work. We have true food deserts where little to no healthy foods are within walking distance for people with limited transportation options. Drug use and addiction are rampant. Although in one regard the pace of life is slower in a rural community, the pressure of over-involvement in extracurricular activities has nearly every family with kids exhausted and scattered. We have families with tremendous need for financial counseling, food assistance, medical help, addiction counseling, and many other things, and they can’t get the help where they are...Read more"
LISTEN: "When Defending Your Writing Becomes Defending Yourself" by Matthew Salesses
"Being vocal about race in the classroom, with which I am less and less comfortable, often brings to mind bell hooks's essay, "Killing Rage." When hooks speaks out, she's just as easily dismissed as when she doesn't. She's invisible when she cries. People of color often believe that there are safe places and that academia is one of them. But I find that academia is sometimes even more a place where race is dismissed or invisible or regarded with suspicion. In an intellectual arena, the rock and the hard place people of color are put in is the place between silence and killing rage, a place where it hurts to keep quiet and it can hurt your career to speak up. It is a place determined by the majority context, where either choice is self-defense...Read more"
LEARN: "How Turbans Helped Some Blacks Go Incognito During the Jim Crow Era" by Tanvi Misra
"Pandit was a musician and television personality, regarded by many as a precursor to Liberace. On TV, Pandit would play the Hammond organ while smoke swirled around him. He'd gaze mysteriously into the camera, locking the viewer in a hypnotic embrace.
Newspapers exalted his musical ancestry as the son of a French opera singer and an Indian father hailing from the far-off New Delhi. In Hollywood, he released records, was offered his own TV show and enjoyed a significant fan following. He was the father of the "kitschy, postwar musical genre 'Exotica,' " Desai writes in his upcoming article about Pandit in the Journal of Popular Culture.
There was just one small thing: Korla Pandit wasn't Indian...Read more"
LOVE: Love People, Not Pleasure" by Arthur C. Brooks
"Consider fame. In 2009, researchers from the University of Rochester conducted a study tracking the success of 147 recent graduates in reaching their stated goals after graduation. Some had “intrinsic” goals, such as deep, enduring relationships. Others had “extrinsic” goals, such as achieving reputation or fame. The scholars found that intrinsic goals were associated with happier lives. But the people who pursued extrinsic goals experienced more negative emotions, such as shame and fear. They even suffered more physical maladies...Read more"