Reconciliation Replay (July 31, 2014)

highlighting the best reconciliation words around

RE-THINK support raising: "Toward Solutions to Support Raising Inequity" by MissioEric

"Almost every article or apologetic I’ve read for the “Biblical Basis of Support Raising” focuses on the individual level. (i.e. It is Biblical for individuals to give. It is Biblical for individual ministers to receive donations.) But I have yet to read an article that focuses on what the Bible might have to say about how those funds are distributed in a community/organization...Read more"

CONSIDER the women of color perspectives: "What I've Left Unsaid: On Balancing Career and Family as a Woman of Color" by Michel Martin

"We cannot fully understand, let alone solve, the important issues around women, work, and family in America without acknowledging the important role that women of color have played in that history. From America's earliest days, the story of women of color has been the story of working women: enslaved Africans who picked tobacco and cotton, indentured Japanese and Chinese women who cut sugarcane, Latina farmworkers who have gathered the food the nation eats, women of every race who have done domestic work...Read more"

BRACE yourselves: "For Women and Minorities, Advocating for Diversity has a Downside" by Jena McGregor

"'People in the upper ranks of management will not openly utter a bad word against diversity,' University of Colorado professor David Hekman said in apress release. 'Yet, executives who are women or ethnic minorities are penalized every day for doing what everyone says they ought to be doing -- helping other members of their groups fulfill their management potential.'...Read more"

DIVERSIFY your friend group: "The Black Friend" by Austin Brown

"I don't want to be your one black friend (OBF). At some point I realized that being your OBF says a lot more about you than it does about me. It usually indicates a certain level of cultural immaturity that doesn't run deep enough for us to develop an equal friendship. Here is how it often feels to be the OBF:

Its an extraordinarily taxing relationship. There will be many occasions when I'm expected to explain blackness… answer questions, talk about current events, teach history, etc. rather than experiencing and enjoying blackness...Read more"

COMFORT IN, DUMP OUT: "How Not to Say the Wrong Thing" by Susan Silk and Barry Goldman

'When you are talking to a person in a ring smaller than yours, someone closer to the center of the crisis, the goal is to help. Listening is often more helpful than talking. But if you're going to open your mouth, ask yourself if what you are about to say is likely to provide comfort and support. If it isn't, don't say it. Don't, for example, give advice. People who are suffering from trauma don't need advice. They need comfort and support. So say, "I'm sorry" or "This must really be hard for you" or "Can I bring you a pot roast?" Don't say, "You should hear what happened to me" or "Here's what I would do if I were you." And don't say, "This is really bringing me down."...Read more"

EXAMINE the epistemology of blackness: "Obama Goes There on 'Acting White'" by Jonathan Capehart

'“Acting white” and its ugly cousin “not black enough” are noxious putdowns meant to foment a sense of betrayal. Those who employ it believe their targets are so ashamed of being black that they value things considered the provenance of white people to be superior to all others.  President Obama, football player Robert Griffin III (RGIII) and just about every African American you know or are acquainted with has been insulted in this manner. I had one well-meaning acquaintance say to me, “You’re the whitest black man I know.” As if the act of learning, speaking proper English, properly wearing pants or not having a clue about rap or basketball (just to name a few) makes one less black or not black at all. As if the pursuit of excellence and success is not within the African American spirit....Read more'