Reconciliation Replay (August 7, 2014)

highlighting the best reconciliation words around

RECOVER: "A 12-Step Program for StrongBlackWomen" by Chanequa Walker-Barnes

"Being a StrongBlackWoman is an addiction, a force of habit ingrained in many of us from childhood. Moreover, it is reinforced by our families, friends, co-workers, and churches - all those people who praise our strength and continuous self-sacrifice. And it's especially lauded and reinforced by those who benefit from our caretaking. Our healing, then, is not a one-time event, but rather a lifelong process...Read more"

LISTEN: "Out of Prison, but Not Free" [video] by Andre Robert Lee

"Few people who haven’t dealt directly with incarceration—either themselves, or with a loved one—appreciate the massive psychological toll it takes. If the men in our third installment of the Life Cycles of Inequity series are indicative, the profound challenge of resuming life after prison is not defined solely by external affairs, like finding work and housing, but also by internal battles like shedding the emotional and mental trauma of lockup...Read more"

LEAN IN, MEN: "7 Things Men Should Do at Work to Help Women Get Even" by Kunal Modi

"Warren Buffett once famously quipped that part of the reason for his success was that he was only competing with half the population: men. While much progress has been made in the past 50 years, women are still grossly underrepresented in the top ranks of society, comprising less than 20% of boardrooms and Congressional seats...Read more"

RETURN to the racial roots: "Beyond Black and White" by Austin Brown

"Everyone wants to move beyond the black/white conversation. I've heard it more times than I can count. Church leaders, congregation members, training attenders, school administrators all want to know when can we finally stop talking about the history between white and black people in America. Despite the widespread desire to stop talking about 'the black white binary', it is essential that we are fluent in the development of race theory if we are to be committed to the work of racial justice and reconciliation...Read more"

CHECK yourself: "The Privilege of School Choice" by Caris Adel

"I don’t talk much about the fact that we educate our kids at home for lots of reasons, but one of them is I’m very aware that it’s a privilege.  Choosing to use that privilege, especially now that we’re in a new community where the choice takes on greater socio-economic implications, makes me uncomfortable. So I don’t want to talk about it.  I’d rather talk about rich white people who go to rich white schools and the racist history behind them....Read more"

BUILDbridges between the privileged & marginalized: "An Opportunity Missed" by Kevin Shoop

"As someone with this mixture of privilege (a lot) and marginalization (some), I feel called and equipped to be a bridge between the two. Let me provide an general example. Often, those who are only just coming to terms with their own privilege have a lot of questions and experience a mild-to-moderate amount of shame, distress, and panic. Those who are marginalized often feel bombarded by the same questions and concerns by these folks. While the person of privilege may have honest questions, the onus really isn’t on the marginalized person to provide soothing words of comfort! However, some of us, including myself, have the experience to be a bridge between those so marginalized that they do not have a significant voice in our society, and those who are struggling to understand their own privilege and the existence of significant systems of oppression. To put it more simply, I do have the time and the energy to answer these questions, to provide education, and to amplify the voices of the marginalized to the ears of those more privileged than I am...Read more"

NOTICE: "The Practice of Noticing What Is" by Kathy Escobar

"Noticing what is” doesn’t mean we don’t care about transformation or change or that we are settling for less. It doesn’t mean we don’t desperately need God’s help and Spirit-at-work-in-our-lives to constantly transform us. It doesn’t mean we don’t want things to be different in our lives, our relationships. As someone dedicated to recovery and healing, there’s no question that there will always be an awful lot of inner-work to be done in my life! But I think we often miss a lot of beauty that’s happening in the moment because we are so focused on the past or think we need to get to the future faster...Read more"